Singles' Crisis
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Media according to population expert study recently reported that due to the imbalance between men and women of marriageable age, by 2020, China may 30 million men of marriageable age unable to find a spouse became “bachelor” outbreak of the “singles crisis”. The data is scientific is not the key, the key China “singles crisis” is to reverse gender imbalance at birth in years behind. 2014 data shows that China’s sex ratio at birth between men and women as 115.88, which means born 115.88 boys born for every 100 girls. The ratio in 2008 to 2014 has been among the lowest values, but there is still a serious imbalance and high proportion of male cases in China for nearly 25 years. Until now, Chinese birth gender imbalance remains the world’s worst, longest, and most populous country. Sex structure of the population imbalance, also brought a marriage squeeze, pension security and a rise in crime and other social problems. Statistics data show that the end of 2014, County male population of 700.79 million people, 33.76 million more than females. Generation sex ratio of the population out of wedlock is 136:100, $literal population out of wedlock than women and men is as high as 206:100, an imbalanced sex ratio is very serious. This also means that there are millions of men met in China “to marry” dilemma. Early in 2010, the Chinese Academy of social sciences has published the social blue book States that by 2020 China’s 24 million more men of marriageable age than women. Today, predicted the “singles crisis” will be coming. In 2020, for single men, as a group, some people facing “a wife” is becoming a reality. Previously, fertility experts also gives … Such as cross-age marriage, young single men to find themselves much or much smaller woman as a spouse, it was suggested that marriages can be achieved with foreign girls to start a family. But they are not the root of the way is not universal. Fundamental way is to solve the gender ratio imbalance problems. For China, improving the male-female ratio is particularly important at this stage, but it is not an easy thing. All along, the maladjusted sex ratio in China due to “son preference” tradition, 1980 after full implementation of the family planning policy, sex ratio imbalances more prominent. However, the population Research Institute at Peking University Professor Qiao Xiaochun told interface journalists over the last “son preference” values stronger than it is now, however, doesn’t appear gender imbalance of the past. Prior to the 1980 ‘s, States no limit to the number of children, couples who want a boy can be realized by having more kids, because the boy or girl the probability is close to 1:1, sex in general meeting at relative equilibrium levels. 1980, the family planning policy has been rolled out across the country, Chinese-born population sex ratio also started to climb. Under normal circumstances, the normal sex ratio at birth between 103 and 107 men and women, and in 1982 the third national population census, the sex ratio at birth was 108.47 1990 fourth population rises to 111, rose to 119 by 2000 when the fifth national census. In 2005, the national population survey found that the ratio is up to 120.49. Since 2003, the State began to work hard to improve the gender, launched a “care for girls” campaign, and nonmedical passed laws and regulations to crack down on illegal fetus gender testing, artificial termination of pregnancy behavior such as newborn sex ratio between men and women. Since then, the sex ratio at birth in China show a downward trend. According to the national health planning Commission data from 2008 to 2014, China’s sex ratio at birth in turn were 120.56, 119.45, 117.94, 117.78, 117.70 117.60, 115.88, but were all higher than 115, the effect is not obvious. A few years ago, due to the family planning policy is not adjusted, the couple is allowed to have one or two children. But the reality is that many people only want boys in rural areas, especially in the second when they secretly went to the hospital to do the sex of the fetus was found to be a boy will stay, is female abortion, men are still more and more. Qiao Xiaochun believes that countries did a lot of work to improve the male-female ratio, but these measures are only a stopgap, and sex ratio of birth in the past two years than ever before have been improved a lot, because in 2013 to adjust the family planning policy in China, allowing “separate two-child”, which also can see that the family planning policy adjustments to improve the gender imbalance between men and women. “China gradually adjusted on the family planning policy in the future, male-female ratio will return to normal levels. “Qiao Xiaochun said, but in recent years the number of males in China the gap will further widen,” $literal “is the first generation of only children,” after the “,” 00 “after the longer more serious gender imbalance between men and women, this generations’s” singles crisis “severity increased. In fact, the “singles crisis” is not all because of gender imbalance. “Even if the normal sex ratio, China also appears a lot of ‘ Bachelor ‘, because people’s conception of the problem, young men in remote backward areas ‘ wife hard ‘ situation is particularly serious. “Said Qiao Xiaochun a interface. Behind this involving deeper poverty and social status and other factors affecting the marriage.
What One Of China’s Top Pick-Up Gurus Taught Me About Dating A gender imbalance has created a “singles crisis” for Chinese men. That means there’s a growing demand for dating advice. But, as I found out, the tips on offer couldn’t be further removed from the sleazy tactics of Julien Blanc.
Jamie Fullerton Mo, a diminutive 20 year-old dressed in a mildly ludicrous flowery jacket, boy band hat and shiny white boots with faux-gold straps, fixes his a stare on his quarry. She steps onto the shopping mall escalator and taps her phone as he silently follows her, 16 stairs behind. They disappear from view just after he makes contact near the top of the steps. Three minutes later he’s back, a touch deflated but laughing. “I just said, ‘Hi, I’m Mo, I’d like to meet you, you’re lovely’,” he says. “But she just wasn’t interested: ‘Bye!’.” Then he sees another pretty girl browsing Prada sunglasses in a shop window, and he’s gone again. Mo is a student of Kong Feng, the 32 year-old Beijing-based professional pick-up artist (Feng he says he’s also happy with “dating expert” or “attracting artist”) who founded the PUA Space school two years ago. He was inspired by noticing a growing demand on internet forums for advice about how to meet and interact with girls in China, the 1.3 billion population of which has a 108:100 man to woman ratio and a much-written about ‘singles crisis’. He usually has five or six other full-time pick-up artists on the company’s books. Hiring a guru such as Feng is far from the only way young men in China have moved to address the killer combo of a gender imbalance and a culture that tends to look unkindly on casual dating. Enormous ‘singles conventions’ take place regularly across the country. These feature thousands of 20-somethings, often accompanied by parents concerned their offspring will end up left on the shelf in their dreaded late-20s, being ferried around exhibition centres in the hope of a match. Imagine the boozy shag-fest these conventions would turn into if they were held in the UK. I reported from one in Shanghai last year and it was far from that; it was full of meek, socially awkward guys getting tips from on-site psychologists about how to treat women. Normal guys who needed help, perhaps in the form of a fun, young guy like Feng rather than an older professional psychologist. Today Feng meets me at Beijing’s enormous high-end Joy City shopping mall along with four of his students to show off the skills they’ve learned. He offers seven, 15 and 30-day day courses priced at the equivalent of £830, £1,050 and £1,470 respectively as well as online courses for £130. Courses involve both classroom lessons and field trips to malls such as the one we’re in today and nightclubs. The box fresh designer clothes the students wear underline that they are aimed firmly at China’s moneyed middle classes, and also that style is the first step in Feng’s process. “On the first day of the courses we change and enhance the boy’s appearance and style,” Feng says. “People who major in technical and engineering courses are my target audience. These are people who stay indoors and don’t care about haircuts or appearances. Then after the style is sorted, we can teach them how to take great pictures for dating websites.” Today Feng and his disciples resemble The X Factor contestants, with their slick black trousers, designer bomber jackets and gaudy metallic boots. “My style has changed a lot since I did the course,” says student William, decked out in an American Football-style sweater and brown Nike trainers. “Now, I’m a fashionable guy!” Western pick-up classes tend to feature manipulative tricks (such as ‘negging’: making small insults to undermine a woman’s confidence and make her vulnerable) but the advice on offer here is far less complex. Although China is increasingly embracing western-style commercialism, society is, on the whole, still more conservative. Breezy US-style dating culture hasn’t been imported alongside the Burger Kings and Starbucks. Feng’s courses are about building general confidence rather than memorising tricks to fool girls into having sex. “Many boys I teach have absolutely no experience in dating,” he says. “I simply teach them how to talk to them, from the first sentence to the second and so on.” Feng does admit that he bases some of his classes on The Mystery Method: How To Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, an anonymously written 2007 pick-up manual. “It tells about the procedure from being strangers to acquaintances then even to close lovers,” he says. But in the main his advice seems painfully obvious and more about making students more generally sociable than getting laid. “I teach about body language,” he says, moving himself around one of his students assertively to demonstrate. “Which angles to stand at, how to invite girls into your personal space to share a drink. I tell them to see something like a girl’s hat and use it as a start point for communication.” £1,470 might seem a lot to pay to have a guy tell you that the way to a girl’s heart is to say she has a nice hat. But it is this sort of basic confidence-building that his students say they have found most useful, and that is addressing a genuine need in China. Much of the confidence comes from being part of the pick-up class friendship network, plus Feng offers services such as advice group chat on WeChat, China’s hugely popular messaging app. Feng is keen to distance himself from unscrupulous western-style pick-up artists. The profession is currently under fire after the rise to prominence of Julien Blanc, the US-based pick-up guru who was banned from entering the UK and Singapore after video of him grabbing Japanese women on the street in Tokyo emerged. Blanc has made a fortune dispensing advice around the world to crowds thousands strong. “I agree that pick-up artists can be bad,” says Feng, who claims that he has never heard of Blanc. “There are people doing things badly in the industry, but I am an exception. I’m teaching people to be more excellent, to expand their social circle. This might lead to them get good jobs and to be more stable, to not have to rely on people. Plus I tell all my students not to cheat on people and about the dangers of things like drugs and Aids.” “I just want to be a more charming and attractive man,” says William, a softly-spoken, friendly guy who couldn’t be further from the western stereotype of the ape-ish PUA street groper. “Americans and English people are more willing to approach girls because they don’t have so much pressure, but due to our traditional culture we are more conservative and have pressure. For me this is all about building confidence.” But confidence is one thing none of the students seem to be lacking as we head further into the mall from our coffee shop meeting point. Feng has clearly invited his star students along to show off today and promote him but still, their utter lack of embarrassment is impressive. They scrub up well and have immaculately-sculpted haircuts, but none of them will be doing any modeling soon. After Mo gets shot down by the girl he follows on the escalator William struts towards a pretty girl eyeing up a designer handbag display. He returns less than a minute later with a grin and a new contact in his iPhone. “I just said, ‘I want to meet you, you look really interesting, can I have your WeChat details please?’” he says. Louis, a bespectacled student and the quietest of the group, follows Wiliam’s lead and uses the same technique on a girl in a large white coat. He doesn’t get more than a few seconds of chat, but does get her WeChat. Feng and the boys move up the mall on escalators. Then Mo reverses his fortunes so far by zipping off towards a lone shopper and chatting to her for a full five minutes before returning, arms aloft in celebration. It is Feng, though, who really shows how it’s done, sidling up to a stunning woman carrying designer shopping bags and having her creased over in laughter within a minute. He doesn’t return for another 15 minutes when, aptly, ‘Celebration’ by Kool & The Gang begins blaring on the mall speakers. Having just traded contact details with the girl Feng forms the group into a semi-circle and explains the importance of exchanging WeChat information. The app has a ‘moments’ feature similar to Twitter that allows you to post picture and message updates viewable by all your contacts. “After she accepts your friend request you need to update your moments to show you’re interesting,” Feng says as the students nod. “Show off your funny side and your life – these WeChat moments display a man’s philosophy and attitudes – it’s you entirely. Girls will see all this!” The group moves onwards and more WeChat contacts are garnered as their confidence levels rise further. William crashes and burns when dispatched to talk to a girl sat on a café on her own taking selfies with a huge stuffed koala bear toy, but minutes later he and Mo chat with two beautiful girls for ten minutes before details are exchanged. It all seems quite sweet and fun, rather than anything sinister. Mo and William’s moment of teamwork success seems a suitably high point to leave the troupe on, so I say my goodbyes after asking Feng about his own relationship status. “I have a girlfriend,” he says, adding that he had picked up “maybe about 100” girls’ contact details by cold approaches before he settled down. “She had a low opinion of what I do for a living at the beginning, but I told her that I am just helping people who are seeking love.” And with that they all head back down the escalator. All, that is, except for Mo, who has spotted another stunner and has scooted off to try to meet her. “Seeking love”, no doubt.
Single Happiness: Marriage Takes a Back Seat in China
HONG KONG—Over the years, they have invented numerous enduring symbols of marital bliss, such as the Mandarin duck and the “double happiness” icon. But China’s younger generations now seem to be falling out of love with marriage. Recent studies show that breakneck economic growth since reforms began 25 years ago, the empowerment of urban women and changing social mores are beginning to change the way younger people in mainland China handle family and relationships. “I think the main factor here is the women,” Beijing-based social activist Hou Wenzhuo told a recent panel discussion on RFA’s Mandarin service. “More and more women are demanding more and more independence. They are increasingly wanting to pursue their own careers, and their own happiness.” A recent study by demographer Tang Can for the prestigious China Academy of Social Sciences (CASS) showed China’s divorce rate climbing steadily over the last 20 years, bringing China—along with Singapore—to the top of Asia’s divorce league table. In the old days in China, it was traditional to greet a friend or neighbor with a cheery question about their dietary status, 'Have you eaten yet?' Now, times are changing, and young urban Chinese have always got plenty to eat. So now they ask each other: 'Did you get divorced yet?' The 'me' generation More than 100,000 people got divorced in the southern province of Guangdong last year, while Beijing had the highest divorce rate in the country, Tang’s study found. Chen Jieming, assistant sociology professor at the Texas A &M University, agreed that increased independence for Chinese women was a major factor behind the divorce findings. But he told RFA reporter Han Qing that attitudes to family life were also changing in society as a whole. “In the past, a marriage used to be regarded as a joint enterprise, and the couple would think about keeping it going,” Chen said. “But nowadays young people are more likely to be thinking about their personal development, so they are investing less emotionally in their marriages.” “Children represent a massive investment in a marriage. The more children there are, the harder it is to split up a family. But nowadays, more and more young couples in Shanghai, for example, are opting not to have children at all,” he said. Some experts say marriage in contemporary China has yet to catch up with a social reality in which consumer-based concepts of choice and gratification now play a major role. A recent study found that around a quarter of Chinese wives seldom or never experience sexual pleasure in their marriages. Family less important Extramarital affairs and divorces are increasingly the butt of wry popular humor. In the old days in China, it was traditional to greet a friend or neighbor with a cheery question about their dietary status, “Have you eaten yet?” “Now, times are changing, and young urban Chinese have always got plenty to eat. So now they ask each other, ‘Did you get divorced yet?’” said one Chinese office worker. Traditional values that give precedence to men in society are proving inadequate when negotiating the subtle emotional terrain of modern relationships, in which working women are on a more equal footing with their male partners, according to sociological researchers who took part in an in-depth series of programs on marriage broadcast by RFA. In another blow for China’s bid for double happiness, more and more young people, especially in the cities, are postponing marriage, leading to what official newspapers have dubbed “the great singles crisis.” Increasingly, young people are beginning to believe that they are better off single than they would be in marriage, researchers said. “For men and women both, individualism is taking more and more of a front seat, and a sense of duty to family more of a back seat,” Hou Wenzhuo told panel host Gao Shan. “What’s more, as attitudes to sex become more liberal, people are no longer reliant on starting a family to satisfy their sexual needs.” Materialism and snobbery U.S.-based commentator Liu Xiaozhu agreed. “Of course, society is changing regardless of what we say about it,” he said. “On the plus side, young men and women in China are taking their own development as individuals, their own identities, far more seriously than they were.” “On the minus side, it certainly will have a detrimental effect on traditional ideals, on family structures,” he said. Liu and Hou also pointed to materialism and unrealistically high standards among successful young people in search of a mate. “In China they will advertise their university degree level, whether they have an apartment and a car... Both men and women share this rather materialistic attitude,” Hou said. And rural workers, who have migrated into China’s booming cities in their tens of millions to find work, often had trouble finding a life partner, Liu added. “In China, your social status is something you are born into, and it’s fairly inflexible.” “There is the gap between the countryside and the cities, and also various divisions of class, income, and locality, and I think these distinctions have driven all those unnecessary materialistic requirements in the marriage market.”
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